Bouncing from D.C. to Chicago to Atlanta to New York to Atlanta leaves me very little time to play in the Common Room. :(
So I am checking in.
Hi!
And I've got food for thought. I had an interesting discussion with Diva Feminist & Black Lilly (separate convos) this weekend about nice vs. good. Are you a nice person? Are you a good person?
We decided that almost everyone we know are good people...but we aren't all nice.
Enter the Nice Meter.
On a scale of 1 (downright evil) to 10 (sweet as pie), how nice are you? And what is niceness to you?
(There was some debate about whether there should be a B.S. meter too...but that is for another post)
I'm putting myself at a 5.
::pregnant silence::
(Say something. I dare you.)
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See, what you've just done was open up a whole mess of worms including, but not limited to, subjectivity, comparison, and relativism.
That being said, I AM going to jump on the comparison/relativism boat and say that if Kis is a 5 (which by the way is a FANTASTIC number)...
Then I am a 7.
Of course, we have to decide on what we mean by nice...do we mean pleasant, agreeable, infrequently sarcastic, sincere, funny, forgiving, polite... i mean what are we talking about????
but for the most part, no matter what we are talking about, if Kis is a 5 then I'm a 7. lol =)
(did mention that I LOVE this blog! lol)
ok...i agree with The Mave about this being a can of worms...however, me likey!
Kis, definitely not a 5...maybe a 3.5-4.2...ok, you are nice to your friends, but not to strangers. hell, i don't care...i'll give you a 5.
Maven, i THINK you want to be a 7...you ain't no 7. hence, your rating being relative to Kis's.
now before ya'll start acting a monkey and asking, "well, what the hell are you, bee-otch?!" damn homies, i KNOW my black ass is a 2. real talk.
what ya'll think?!
welcome back, kis. ;)
@Boogie ummm you are supposed to evaluate YOURSELF, trick! And yes you ARE a 2... though you have your moments of 3 and 4-ness.
I still think my 7ness stands...I was going to give me a 6 at first but i am hella indulgent most times... now if we were going on just thoughts i have about situations, people, and the like... i would be waaaaay closer to a 4.. but i tend not to voice most or any of the mean stuff... and I'm pretty sweet in actions... so
7 if we mean how we behave
4 if all the mean stuff i think about counts ( I can get a little vindictive! lol)
um....no comment on Maven's 7. But I laughed out loud when I read it...
Maven=2.5
boogie=2.5
Kismet is still a 5, I think. But I'll knock myself down to a 3 and consider making that 5 a New Year's Resolution....:)
maven,
get it together!! the rating is a collective WHOLE. NOT "i 'act' nice even to people i think are fat dumbasses..." hell, if that were the case, then i would be an 8...
keeps it real, maven, keeps it real.
kis, so what self-relfective process took you to a 3?
hmm....well i think dumb people are dumb and i tell them that (3) but i am trying to do a better job of telling them that NICELY (5)....
Hell naw, I'm not nice. I'm not good either. None is good, no not one. I do good things and I'm nice to well behaved children and pretty people without a chip on their shoulder.
If someone had to describe me they'd say I was fun, funny, cool as hell and maybe even compassionate, but nice... not-at-all, so I'll give myself a 3. (I'm not evil, damn).
Um...if T is a 3, I'll eat my shorts....
I'm going to try to throw something serious into the Common Room soon but this has been hilarious!
I'm late but I think I'll join y'all down at 3.
This is interesting to think about, esp the thoughts vs. actions piece. I've become more ok with my meanness lately.
Welcome back ladies.
IC, you look mad/mean as HAIL in your picture, lol!
man, Eff all yal!!! lol
@kis... I can't believe you laughed at my 7!!! I am not as mean as boogie... and when i see you in a fe weeks i want you to look me in my face and say you are nicer than me!!! i don't think you could do it!!!
@T no you did NOT start quoting scripture! I mean if we were gonna go there then sure, every body's number bottoms out! we did not say righteous/good! NICE!!!
lmaooo... what i love about this post. is that kismet and i were like....
boogie is a 2!
LMAOOOO. LOVE IT! And we both agreed that that is why we love you!
Maven I think you are a solid 7.
Black Lilly you have zero credibility; you are barely 5 yourself....don't be hyping Maven's head up!
And Maven...I KNOW YOU!!! :)
ok, wait...i'm KIND of offended that i am getting consistent ratings as a 2. hmm...
as i said, welcome to the can of worms!!!! lol
and as i also said, I LOVE THIS BLOG.
@ kis, if I wasn't so NICE, I'd say somethin to you about your disparaging remarks as to my 7ness...
boogie i gave u 2.5 :) and i like ur 2ness. it inspires my own lower number tendencies. makes me feel like im not alone
KISMET! IF IM A 5 U ARE A NEGATIVE 1. AS LONG AS U ARE OKAY WITH THAT I AM FINE WITH THE 5 STATUS... OTHERWISE... IM AT A 7 WITH MISS MAVEN. THANKS! :)
AND THE 2 BOOGIE WASNT A BAD THING. AGAIN. WE LOVE YOUR 2NESS. AND KISMET AINT GIVE U NO 2.5 TILL NOW... SO U CLEARLY DID SOMETHING IN THE PAST 5 DAYS TO CHANGE HER MIND. LOL!
see this hate black lilly....this what we talkin about...
@boogie. i guess that's why i had folks scared at the wu. i wasn't going for mean at all and it's not how i would have described the pic but i seen what you mean.
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